MY FRIEND JEANNIE...eulogy
by
Teh Yoke Hooi
I’ve known Jeannie for a rather long time, having spent
many, many memorable holidays together, countless meals, and happy
times. We watched our children grow from the terror toddlers that they
were, through their awkward teenage years, to the young adults that they
are today.
I thought that having known her for so long would give me
plenty to say of her, but as I sat down last night to write, I was at a
complete loss for words to describe Jeannie. She was so many things to
me, and yet I could not find the words to pin down this woman.
How do I do justice to this woman and describe her in a few
minutes all that Jeannie was – she could be so hilariously funny, remember her
seemingly endless supply of naughty and off color jokes? And her often
outrageous comments – about situations, and people, and about our husbands, and
kids and ourselves? Jeannie was gregarious and she was warm. She was
understanding, she was deep, she was spiritual, she was compassionate.
She
was certainly opinionated and not shy about it. Jeannie was one who lived her
life without convention, without regret. She did not let fears hold her back,
nor did she hesitate to live as she wished…… She lived her life always being
true to herself, whatever it took…..
If
Keat is a Tiger, Jeannie is without doubt the Tigress. She loved fiercely and
passionately and would always be prepared to be up in arms to fight for her
loved ones. How many times have we heard stories of how Jeannie would terrorize
thoughtless people and authorities whom had dared to threaten and hurt her
precious cubs, Krystyn and JJ, and even her friends???
And
we all remember how Jeannie loved a good party, don’t we? Well we are all here
for you Jeannie. I can just imagine you beaming down on us now, with a Virginia
Slim in one hand and a coke in the other, basking in all the attention!
I
expected Jeannie to grow old with me and the rest of our friends. She always
talked about how we’ll spend our time living it up without kids in tow, about
how we’ll grumble and complain about our daughters in law, and how we’ll compare
medications.
Well, I won’t be comparing medications with you Jeannie, because you have gone
on to where physical pains and ills will no longer plague you. I am happy and
glad that your spirit is finally free to roam and soar as the bird that you
are…..
I
want to remember you, Jeannie for all the laughter that you gave me. For all the
noisy boisterous times we spent, for the quiet talks we had, for the
perspectives that you put on everyday situations and in our deepest emotions. I
want to remember you for your wisdom, for your irrepressible spirit and your
zest for life.
And
I want to remember how you dedicated your entire life to Keat, and to your
children, Krystyn and JJ, your greatest achievement and legacy.
Jeannie, I will miss you….We all will..
Teh Yoke Hooi
(15th July, 2007)